Ghosting. As far as I was aware, referred to a secondary image on a television screen, like a double vision sort of thing. That was until I found out it’s also linked to those people who decide to cease conversation without any explanation.
Although this term is mostly relevant to the dating scene, I’m pretty certain it can be linked to various instances in people’s lives. Ghosting used to bother me a lot, not so much now. But it still hurts. Here’s 5 things that I hate about these people.
I don’t know where I stand
If I’ve done something wrong I want to know. Don’t keep me guessing. Tell me. At least I can apologise or argue my point. If you’re just going to point blank ignore me for a reason that you don’t tell me, how am I to know what I’ve done or how to put it right?
I doubt myself
I’m pretty sure they get some kick out of this. They must get off on making us wonder about the different reasons why they’ve stopped talking to us. Was it because I said something wrong? Did I post something online they didn’t approve of? Is there something wrong with me? The second guessing can consume you, not great if you have anxiety.
Wasting my time
It’s a massive kick in the teeth when I’ve spent a long time speaking to someone and have invested all my energy then you go and fuck off without an explanation. Pretty pissed off with wasting my time on people who I have tried to get an explanation from to try and resolve something.
Rudeness
The last time I checked, ignoring someone was rude. Um hello, it still is! If I’m talking to you or have asked you a question, at least have the decency to respond. Say something! Blanking isn’t just childish, it’s rude.
I know you’ve read my message
With the dreaded double blue ticks on WhatsApp and the ‘read’ notification on Facebook, these rude people have even got the brass neck to continue ignoring. Why? Does it mean they’ve read and forgot to reply? Perhaps I’m being too lenient. Just fucking respond.
My message to all the Ghosters
If you’ve ever been the Ghoster, I know you may have been put in some awkward situations and you think ghosting is the easiest solution. Just don’t. Man the fuck up and be an adult. Tell the person you’re not interested, tell them what they’ve done wrong, tell them the reason why you no longer want to speak to them. Maybe you can work it out, see each other’s differences or go your separate ways. Life is too short to hold grudges. Just quit ghosting!
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