Indecisive people – why have you got to make things so complicated? Ever since I can remember, I have been quite independent and organised. I’ve known my likes and dislikes, and have never been afraid to tell people what’s on my mind. My argument is, at least people know where they stand with me. Although some may think I’m pretty blunt about things, I’d like to say I’m just honest.
As much as I may offend you with my honesty, I’m sorry but that’s just who I am. If I don’t want to go somewhere, I’ll tell you. If I don’t like something, I’ll tell you. I’d much rather be like that than be one of these people who sits on the fence about every fucking thing. I know some people would rather not make a decision because they’re afraid to upset someone. Um hello, take off your rose tinted specs and live in the real world. Here’s 5 things I don’t understand about indecisive people.
1 – Why do you make things difficult?
I’m a bit of a planning freak when it comes to most things. I like to know where I’m going, when I’m going, how I’m getting there and above all else, what I’m going to be doing. I’ve got to be like that especially as I travel a lot. So if I’m planning a night out or a catch-up, then WHY has it always got to be me who decides on every single thing we do? I mean surely, is it that hard to make your mind up about what you want to do or where you want to go? I know I organise most of what I do because I hate relying on someone. But come on! Can you just make a decision for once in your life?
2-You Abscond All Responsibility
The famous lines “I don’t mind” and “I’ll fit in with you” are the top 2 signs you’re an indecisive person. Just NO! Please tell me if you’d rather do something else. What I’d like even better would be if you actually told me what you’d like to do. Stop passing the buck onto someone else.
3 – How Do You Function In Life?
If you can’t decide where to go or what you film you want to see, how do you function in life? I mean, when it comes to the clothes you wear – have you got to ask someone for their input on that? Surely not?!
4- When they want me to make a decision on a decision
That probably sounds more complicated than it is. What I mean is, you give a rough idea about what you want to do, but then think it’s far better for someone to make the final decision. Here’s an example – “Shall we go and see ‘Fantastic Beasts‘ at the cinema? I don’t mind seeing something else though if you want to, it’s up to you”. ARGH! That’s as good as saying you want me to decide in the first place. Don’t come across like you’ve got your life together and taking that leap of faith which is so simple, yet you turn the tables in the last second
5- Can’t say ‘yes’ or ‘no’
“Do you want to go grab something to eat?”. Here’s a clue, the answer is either ‘yes’ or ‘no’. Why the hell do indecisive people then reply with ‘I don’t know’ or ‘I don’t mind’. Surely you know whether you’re hungry or whether you want to eat something? All I want to know is do you want to or not? I am certainly not going to make the decision whether you’re going to eat FFS.
Does anyone else get as frustrated as me about this kind of stuff? Let me know!
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Old article but i relate to this so much. A person I work with is so indecisive that she always ask every single detail from me. I think she does that so if anything goes wrong, I’m easily to be blamed. “He told me to do this.”
This indecisive person I refer to is afraid of making mistakes.. But that’s how you learn, just own it and don’t repeat it. Done. I don’t have to hold your hand the entire time.
Just looking at her really irritates me at work and I’m already thinking of quitting since I do most of her work anyway and the load is just too much for me..
Glad to know I’m not the only one feeling this
Ehh i get it but I also have a few people in my life that are as you say you are which are gotta know all details or if we should do this or that and I totally get that. Gotta have a mix of both realistically otherwise nothing would actually get done. I say this because I’ve got some friends that are busy bodies in fact they must thrive or rely on attention and activities with others which is normal. But its also normal for a person to be indecisive to a degree. For example if im watching something with buddies and all the sudden I get a do you want to watch this or what do you want to watch. A lot of the time personally I don’t really care. Like I literally don’t mind if we do exactly what we are doing now or change it up, in that its not taken any space in my head. Then there are those who impose their will strongly in those situations and thats fine too. True that on my own ide watch something totally different, but sometimes when it comes to dealing with more needy people its easy to let them decide since you just may not care. Basically some people usually more introverted people don’t really care. Youre mistaking indecisiveness with indifference by grouping it all together. Its not difficult either atleast for me when pushed for an answer on say what food we should order I might say anything and personally I’m not picky literally anything will suffice. MD or burger King or pizza or Chinese I don’t care lmao. Now if im like nah not that etc etc then I’m indecisive there’s a difference. I’m also not the best planer mostly because I’m not usually reaching out to my friends with the frequency that they reach out to me so I wouldn’t be planning on really doing anything but if I get asked if I wanna do something I’d be fine with it also. When it comes to basic life decisions those are made easily albeit the larger life choices may be more thinking involved in it while a person whose quick on the trigger may just go with their initial reaction. If everyone were the same this game of life would simply not work. While doing social things my mind is pretty blank tbh but when im alone im doing the most in terms of thinking and making decisions. Although there are definitely indecisive people who are also picky thats where the annoying part happens imo.